A woman has shared her unusual experience at a luxury “orgasm retreat” in California, where women focus entirely on their own sexual pleasure. The Back to Body Sex Retreat in Joshua Tree National Park costs up to $15,000, though shorter weekends are available for under $1,000.

Sex and dating columnist Jana Hocking joined the retreat, expecting it to be full of extroverts. Instead, she found women healing from trauma, divorces, and years without true intimacy. “My goal was to take back ownership of my sexuality… but am I having a real orgasm? Am I putting my needs first?” she said.

Led by founder Pamela Madsen, activities included tantric meditation, self-touch exercises, sensory play, and anatomy tutorials from a urologist. Some demonstrations were highly explicit, including public foreplay sessions. While Jana did not reach orgasm during the retreat, she left feeling more confident and ready to explore her needs privately.

She believes the experience helped her shift from “performing” in intimacy to truly understanding and prioritizing her own pleasure.