A growing number of young people now identify as “greysexual,” meaning they feel sexual attraction only rarely or under specific conditions.

The term describes a “grey area” between asexuality and regular sexual attraction. “It helps people understand I do have sexual feelings, just less often,” explained YouTuber Mark. Online forums and TikTok videos are helping many find words for feelings they once struggled to explain.

Experts say the rise comes amid what’s called the “sex recession,” with younger generations reporting fewer sexual partners. Some blame anxiety, body image pressures, and social media for creating a climate of “fear and shame” around intimacy. Research shows constant exposure to “perfect” images can lower self-confidence and reduce interest in dating.

Greysexuality can overlap with identities like demisexual, where attraction develops only after a strong emotional bond. While some see these labels as empowering, others worry they overcomplicate how we think about relationships. Doctors stress the importance of distinguishing between consistent low attraction and a sudden drop in sex drive, which could signal health issues.

As one advocate put it, “Finding the right label can be freeing — it’s about understanding yourself, not limiting yourself.”