A new intimacy trend called shallowing is gaining attention, and experts say it may transform relationships in surprising ways. Research from Indiana University surveyed over 4,000 women, aged 18 to 93, and found 84% reported more pleasure with this technique.
Shallowing focuses on gentle stimulation at the vaginal entrance rather than deep penetration. Partners use fingers, toys, oral play, or light thrusting to build arousal slowly. “Condoms remain the gold standard in STI prevention, and the ‘dip the tip’ method adds extra protection,” explained health writer Rachel Bartee.
Experts also highlight emotional benefits. Shallowing slows the pace, creating what Bartee calls “increased awareness of consent” and helping couples “foster deeper connection.” Many say this mindful approach encourages men to focus more on their bodies, reduces premature ejaculation, and provides a gentler start for women who experience discomfort.
Sex expert Annabelle Knight added practical tips for comfort. “A pillow under the back can ease strain and boost pleasure,” she said. Shallowing may not be for everyone, but its mix of safety, connection, and pleasure is sparking conversation. Could slowing down really be the key to deeper intimacy?
