After thirty years of self-discovery, journalist Emma Flint has come forward to share her story of identifying as abrosexual — a lesser-known term describing people whose attraction naturally changes over time.

Flint explains that her understanding of herself evolved slowly. Growing up in the 1990s, she felt her feelings didn’t fit the narrow definitions of “straight,” “gay,” or “bisexual.” At the time, society offered little language or support for fluid identities.

A major turning point came in 2020, when she discovered an online post by LGBTQ+ educator Zoe Stoller describing abrosexuality. “It was like a light switched on,” Flint recalled. “Finally, there was a word that fit.”

The discovery helped her realize that her shifting attraction wasn’t confusion but a natural expression of who she is. While coming out wasn’t easy — some friends struggled to understand — others responded with compassion and curiosity.

Flint emphasizes that her identity doesn’t affect her ability to love or commit. “I’m attracted to the person, not their gender,” she said.

Now, she hopes sharing her experience will help others feel seen and accepted. “It’s about understanding — not judgment,” she reflected. “That’s what truly matters.”