She walked into yet another office expecting another refusal. Instead, a surgeon said yes. Abby Ramsay, a 25-year-old asexual actress from Los Angeles, had spent six years searching for a safe, permanent way to live the life she knew was right for her. Since 16, she’d felt certain: motherhood wasn’t her path.

Standard birth control made her ill. An IUD wasn’t an option. Condoms still left her anxious. Month after month, appointment after appointment, she was told to “wait,” “rethink,” or “try therapy.” The message stung. “For the first time, I felt heard,” Abby said, describing the moment a doctor took her seriously.
In early February, she underwent a bilateral salpingectomy and an endometrial ablation — procedures that aligned with her medical needs and long-held decision to remain child-free. The surgery went well. Recovery came with quiet relief and the steady support of her partner. She shared her story online, not for applause, but to remind others that informed consent and body autonomy matter.
Abby isn’t anti-parenthood. She’s pro-clarity. She believes every child deserves a ready home — and every adult deserves respectful care. Sometimes, the bravest choice is simply the honest one.