Most of us know the uneasy feeling of stepping into the dating world again. You hope for good conversation, a little spark, and maybe someone who shares your values. But one woman has stirred the internet by adding a surprising requirement to her first dates.
Sofia Franklyn, host of the Sofia with an F podcast, admitted she asks men for their bank account information before a second drink is even ordered. She explained that she only wants to date a man who is “on her level” financially, and believes being upfront saves time. For her, money isn’t everything—but it’s a deal-breaker.
Her podcast guest supported her blunt approach, saying she was simply “getting to the point.” But many viewers felt a very different reaction. Once the clip hit TikTok, thousands weighed in, calling her request bold, rude, or downright unrealistic. One person joked that “podcast equipment needs to be less accessible.”
Some viewers wondered if love and genuine connection still matter when money becomes the first question. Others pointed out that truly wealthy people rarely flaunt their income, let alone hand over bank details on day one. Still, a few people did defend Sofia, saying they also prefer partners who match their lifestyle and stability.
The debate shows just how divided modern dating has become—some chasing financial security, others searching for emotional connection above all.
In the end, everyone is looking for something different, and sometimes the journey reveals more about ourselves than the people we meet.
