London model and influencer Vera Dijkmans says she became the “world’s most sought-after girlfriend” after inviting men to apply for a date. More than 5,000 did. Yet only three met her standards, and none sparked a romance.
Now 27, Vera is sharing what she believes many women overlook. First, set clear boundaries. A respectful partner plans a real outing—dinner, a museum, or an activity—not a late-night “drop by.” Thoughtful gestures matter, she adds; even a simple bouquet shows care and preparation.
She also flags red-letter warnings: messages that appear only after 10 p.m., broken promises, double standards, and neglect of basic hygiene or finances. “Without fundamentals,” she says, “relationships struggle.”
Her approach has drawn criticism. A relative called her public “boyfriend application” improper, and she’s felt envy in professional settings. Yet plenty of women cheer her on, and she admits the flood of interest was flattering.
Why the attention? Vera believes men respond to authenticity. Still, she refuses to settle. She values intelligence, humor, responsibility—and, ideally, financial stability. For now, she has paused the search, choosing to stay single until the right match appears.
Her takeaway for readers is straightforward: respect yourself, articulate your needs, and expect effort. Romance should add joy and partnership, not drain time and energy.
