Hi, I’m Tom. My wife, Mia, and I have been married for three years. This is the story of a harsh lesson I learned about disciplining my teenage daughter, Harper.

During Mia’s 42nd birthday celebration, Harper, my 17-year-old daughter from a previous marriage, gave Mia a bra as a gift. Mia, who had battled breast cancer, was deeply hurt by this insensitive gesture. “I can’t believe this,” Mia whispered, breaking down in tears.

Furious, I confronted Harper. “How could you think this was appropriate?” I demanded. Harper dismissed it as a joke, saying, “Dad, it’s just a joke. Can’t you take a joke?” I told her she wouldn’t get the car I’d planned for her 18th birthday until she apologized.

Harper stormed out, accusing me of favoritism, and went to her mother’s house. Later, her mother called, accusing me of being unreasonable. The next morning, I wondered if I’d been too harsh but stood by my decision, seeing Mia’s pain.

Now, I ask you: Was my reaction justified, or did I let anger cloud my judgment?