A woman shared her unplanned motherhood journey on Reddit. At 27, she became pregnant from a one-night stand with a man named Robert. They decided to co-parent rather than pursue a relationship. When she gave birth to twin daughters, Robert and his mother visited. The grandmother made racist remarks and demanded paternity tests, creating a hostile environment.

Robert worked in another state, visiting the girls on major holidays or summers, often leaving them with his mother. However, the grandmother’s racist behavior led to a fallout between her and Robert. He didn’t want his children exposed to such a toxic environment.

Upon learning of his terminal illness, Robert regretted not spending enough time with his daughters. He moved closer, asked for equal custody, and the mother allowed him to stay in her guest room. She agreed the girls could see their grandmother, but not in her house. Robert respected this until his death.

After Robert’s death, the grandmother asked to see the girls. The mother refused, stating, “Her only connection to them was through Robert and Robert only. I have not and will not help her see my girls.” Many commenters agreed it was unsafe for the children to be around someone who had discriminated against them. They believed the girls should decide about a relationship with their grandmother when they were 18, stating, “She has reaped what she sowed.”