A Reddit post revealed a man’s dilemma over caring for his younger sister after their father’s death. The man (OP) was ready to adopt his sister, but his wife disagreed.

After their father’s death from pancreatic cancer, the OP faced a choice: either he or their uncle could adopt his 11-year-old sister. “We asked her who she wanted, and she chose me,” the OP shared. The couple had decided not to have children, causing tension.

The OP’s wife argued against taking in his sister, stating that since the uncle could adopt her, they shouldn’t have to. Despite the tension, the OP was determined: “I wanted to ensure she recovered healthily, and since she expressed a desire to be with me, I was not going to force her to stay with our uncle.”

The couple ultimately divorced. “She said you really are choosing your sister over me,” the OP wrote. Many supported his decision, calling his wife selfish. One commenter advised parents to have a will specifying guardianship, while others empathized with the wife’s unwillingness to take on motherhood. The OP concluded, “Being a single father-ish brother is definitely challenging, but I am really enjoying it.”