Dating Expert Shares Biggest Reason Why Women Stop Sleeping With Their Husbands

It’s a topic few couples talk about — yet almost everyone feels it at some point.
When the spark fades in marriage, most blame time, stress, or routine. But according to Dr. Sarah Hensley, a relationship expert and psychologist, there’s something much deeper.

“The main reason women stop being intimate with their husbands,” she explains, “is because they don’t feel emotionally safe anymore.”

In her viral video, viewed by thousands, Dr. Hensley says emotional safety is the foundation of lasting attraction. “When a woman doesn’t feel loved, seen, or heard,” she adds, “her body starts protecting her heart. It’s not rejection — it’s survival.”

She describes two patterns she often sees: some women crave reassurance and affection, while others simply need peace and respect. When those needs go unmet, connection breaks down — long before the physical bond does.

@drsarahhensley

First, seggs is a code word you can hopefully figure out because I’m not about to get kicked off. Secondly, there ARE other reasons like feeling like their husband doesn’t help them with the workload, or affairs, etc. BUT this is THE biggest reason by far. Calm down and breathe, I know it may be hard to hear and you’ll get triggered. But I am here to help you start getting your needs met. Don’t shoot the messanger. I am direct and I make no apologies for my assertiveness. I’m a coach not a therapist. #love #relationships #intimacy #marriage #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

♬ original sound – Dr. Sarah Hensley | Love Doc

One viewer wrote, “It’s true. I stopped feeling close the moment I stopped feeling safe.”

Maybe the real secret to lasting love isn’t passion or perfection — but tenderness, trust, and emotional calm. Because when the heart feels safe, everything else follows.