Some couples split when sexuality shifts. Others get quieter and resentful. Worse, some start lying.

Renn and Durden chose a different route. They stayed together after he came out as bisexual. Then they opened their marriage.

They say it works. Still, strangers pile on. Online commenters call him “really gay.” Some even send death threats.

The real problem isn’t their marriage. It’s everyone else’s panic.

Here’s the pain: bi men still get erased. People treat attraction to men as a “phase.” Or they demand a label that doesn’t fit.

Renn says she rarely gets heat as a bi woman. Meanwhile, Durden takes most of the punches. That double standard shows up everywhere. Especially in comment sections.

So they built a plan instead of breaking apart. First, they talked. Then they set rules. It took years, plus plenty of jealousy talks.

Now they date and hook up outside the marriage with clear boundaries. They also attend “hotel takeovers,” which are adult party weekends. They describe them as spaces for open, consensual exploration.

Their families needed time, too. Renn’s mum worried at first. Later, she backed them, focusing on honesty and self-expression.

The fix is simple. Let people define their own commitment. And if that bothers you, scroll on.