I have practiced massage therapy for nearly 30 years, witnessing how skilled touch soothes the nervous system and fosters emotional well-being. However, despite the importance of this work for everyone, I made a significant policy change last year: I refuse to book appointments for new male clients.

This decision stems from the dangerous misconception that conflates therapeutic massage with sex work. In one harrowing incident during a spa session, a man manipulated a treatment for supposed digestive issues into a nonconsensual sexual act. I walked out in shock, feeling violated by his use of my professional care for his gratification.

Such experiences are tragically common, driving many women out of the industry. For years, I attempted to screen men using background checks and strict boundaries, but the constant vigilance was exhausting. The anxiety of wondering if a new client would be predatory ultimately outweighed the financial benefits of accepting them.

When my own therapist suggested I transition to a women-only practice, I initially hesitated, fearing it was unfair to respectful men. Yet, the moment I committed to the change, I felt immense relief. By removing the threat of sexual harassment, I have regained a sense of safety and can now fully focus on providing a secure environment for the women I treat.