More people are identifying as graysexual — a term for those who experience sexual attraction rarely, weakly, or only in specific situations. Also called “gray-ace,” it sits between asexuality and sexuality on the attraction spectrum.

According to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, graysexual people may “experience sexual attraction very rarely” or find it so low in intensity that it’s not essential in relationships. Licensed therapist Shadeen Francis explains they might enjoy certain activities but feel repulsed or indifferent to others.

Graysexuality is part of the broader asexual spectrum, which includes sex-repulsed, sex-neutral, and sex-positive identities. Some graysexual individuals also identify with romantic orientations like biromantic, heteroromantic, or aromantic. “Communication is key,” Francis says, recommending partners discuss preferences and boundaries openly.

While sex may hold little importance for some, graysexual people can have deeply fulfilling relationships. The community now makes up about 10% of the asexual spectrum, represented by the gray stripe on the asexual flag. Support is available through AVEN, online forums, and local LGBTQ+ centers.