For years, men have absorbed the same loud message online. Bigger must mean better. Then they quietly worry. They compare. They second-guess what they bring to a relationship.

Recently, Belle Olivia, a well-known British adult performer, offered a calmer take. She didn’t sell a fantasy. Instead, she talked about real-world comfort.

First, she challenged the idea that performers always prefer extreme sizes. She explained that what looks dramatic on camera often feels impractical in everyday intimacy. Then she pointed to something many people forget. Bodies differ. Partners differ. What matters most is what feels good for both people, not what looks impressive on a screen.

Next, she urged men to stop using adult films as a measuring stick. Those scenes aim to entertain. They do not aim to reflect typical relationships.

Research often lands in the same place. Many women report that comfort and compatibility matter more than any single number. That small shift in focus can bring real relief.

So where does that leave anyone still feeling anxious? In a better place, if they let it. Choose honesty over comparison. Choose communication over guessing. And remember this: confidence grows when you treat your body with respect, not judgment.