A woman is receiving widespread support after publicly sharing that she identifies as abrosexual—an orientation marked by shifting patterns of attraction. She explains that it took her nearly 30 years to understand her experience and finally find a label that felt right.

Journalist Emma Flint described her journey in an article for Metro. She said that whenever she explains her identity, she is often met with puzzled looks or comments questioning its validity. Growing up in the 1990s, when LGBTQ+ identities were far less recognized, left her feeling isolated. At the time, society expected people to fit neatly into categories such as straight, gay, or lesbian. Anything outside those boxes was often dismissed.

Flint said her attraction seemed to change over time—sometimes aligning with one orientation, then shifting weeks later. For years, she struggled to understand why. That changed in 2020 when she discovered an online post describing abrosexuality. The description immediately resonated, offering clarity she had never had before.

According to sexuality researchers, abrosexuality refers to a fluid orientation in which a person’s pattern of attraction naturally shifts. Flint emphasizes that this is not indecision but simply how her identity works.

Coming out was not easy. A close friend reacted dismissively, but others—including family members—have since taken the time to learn and offer support. Flint stresses that her changing attraction does not affect her ability to form meaningful, committed relationships.

Most of all, she hopes increasing awareness will help others feel seen. “My identity finally makes sense to me,” she said. “And that is enough.”