A young woman named Ashley, a fashion stylist known online as @ashbabank, recently told her followers she is “very single.” Not just single… but untouched by romance for eight months. And what surprised people most wasn’t her status—it was her explanation.
Friends often assume she’s taken because she’s stylish, successful, and, yes, undeniably beautiful. But Ashley says her looks and confidence haven’t helped her love life at all. In fact, she believes they’ve done the opposite.
The turning point in her message came when she looked into the camera and said,
“Men don’t like me. Men are very, very terrified of me.”
Her words struck a chord with thousands of women who’ve been told the same thing: that confidence, beauty, or success somehow makes them “intimidating.” Ashley said that men who do show interest are usually unavailable or, as she bluntly put it, “weirdos.” She feels many see her as a fantasy, not a real person with real emotions.
Comments flooded in. Women shared stories of being admired from afar, only to be avoided because of the insecurities they triggered in others. One follower wrote, “They idealize you… then resent you for the same things they once loved.”
Ashley ended her video with a bittersweet truth:
“Yes, I’m alone. I’m very, very, very single. But I know my worth.”
Her honesty opened a door for countless viewers who feel the same.
And it left many quietly asking themselves a simple question:
Why do we fear the very people who inspire us?