Johnny Sins, one of the most recognizable figures in the adult industry, is sharing what he believes most men get wrong in the bedroom. With a long career and a massive online following, he says his success comes from focusing on his partner rather than himself.

Speaking ahead of an event in Sydney, he explained that many men approach intimacy with a selfish mindset. According to him, too many rush toward their own satisfaction without paying enough attention to their partner’s experience. He believes this attitude leads to disappointing encounters for both sides.

Johnny says his own approach is the opposite. He describes himself as a “pleaser” and emphasizes taking time, being attentive, and making sure his partner feels valued. For him, the connection and the shared experience matter far more than speed or performance.

He also notes that many men ask him how they can improve physically, especially regarding size. Johnny is straightforward about this topic, saying that outside of risky procedures, there is no safe way to change it—and that men should focus instead on what they can control: communication, patience, and effort.

His growing popularity has brought these conversations to a wider audience. After years in the industry, his profile skyrocketed thanks to internet memes and social media trends, turning him into a recognizable figure far beyond adult film.

As he prepares for appearances and fan events in Australia, Johnny continues to encourage men to rethink their priorities. His message is simple: great intimacy starts with paying real attention to your partner.