In the early days of motherhood, a new mom found herself longing for a moment of peace. She shared on Reddit that her newborn daughter, who was strictly breastfeeding, found comfort in being close to her, leaving her little time for herself. “I’ve showered once by myself since having her, and it only lasted long enough for me to soap up before she was crying and my husband was bringing her into the bathroom with me. I think I literally had all of 2-3 minutes,” she wrote.

Her husband’s life, however, remained unchanged. He took long, uninterrupted showers daily and didn’t understand his wife’s frustration. Each time the baby cried while she was in the shower, he would bring their newborn to her instead of trying to calm the baby himself. He claimed it hurt him to see the baby cry and that she loved showers.

Desperate for a proper shower, she asked her mother to watch the baby. Her husband was upset when he found out, saying, “I could have watched her. Why would you do that?” She responded, “Every time you watch her while I shower, she ends up in here with me within 2 minutes of me being in here because you don’t even try to calm her down.”

Her story resonated with many commenters who shared their own experiences and advice. One suggested, “If, according to hubby, showers calm her down, why isn’t he taking her on his 30-60 minute showers?” Another advised locking the door to teach her husband a lesson on respecting her privacy. Commenters highlighted the husband’s lack of concern for his wife’s well-being and urged her to have a serious conversation with him about equitable parenting.